Osctracizing, ego and competition

My daughter just graduated from elementary school.  We have loved the teachers and school staff who were great.  However we had a not so welcoming experience as far as parents go.  I don't want to say we were bullied but more like ostracized.  So I am happy to be moving on to another experience.  I have experienced first hand a particular parent bashing another child in front of other parents while her parents were not there.  Is it a wonder that now this parent's child does the same thing and gossips about other children behind their back, and then turns around and pretends to be their friend.  I have participated in my child's school but not in excess - I did what I felt would benefit my child.  I see parents really go out of their way and really push to be with the in crowd.  I don't think this is worth it if you are dealing with fake people that have everyone fooled.  I have observed this certain parent being excited and happy when other people were being ticketed outside for double parking - meanwhile the school does not have a parking lot.  Why all the hate...she has her own issues just like everyone else...  Yet people flock to her?  She has also of course not rsvp'd to my daughter's birthday parties the two times I have invited her, meanwhile the children have gotten along at school.  A simple "no" would have sufficed.   I myself am not upset about this because I have always been a loner and like to observe what I am getting into first.  I enjoy being around genuine people. I am sure people have an opinion of me as being quiet or not involved enough.  I am involved enough in my child's life and have nothing to prove to the school or other parents as far as trying to be a martyr because of being overworked. I have not advertised my situation...and nobody knows my battles nor are they worth advertising to people who may not have my best interest. I am not here to be a victim but to shed light to people that have a similar experience.

When social ostracizing you not only hurt the parent, but you hurt their child.  It is then up to that parent whose child you hurt to deal with the pain you have caused their child and to have to teach their child to empathize with those who hurt others.  So thanks for giving me extra work just by being your selfish self. I have to do that work so I can stop the cycle of ignorance with my child, but what about countless other children or adults this happens to... What if their parents are not mentally equipped to teach empathy but to hate people like you...Then of course that cycle of hate will continue. That trip you kept boasting about that you all took together but didn't invite my child to, that hurt my child.  Not only did you not invite my child but you kept boasting about how much fun you had over and over in front of her.  Are you really that mentally inept and insensitive as a grown adult?  Can you blame a parent for not wanting to socialize with people like this... I value this experience for making me and my child a stronger person and making us realize that the world is indeed unfair.  The bully is rewarded as long as he is fake and tells people what they want to hear and strokes their ego.  I would rather not be in the IN crowd and teach my daughter the valuable lesson of not following the rules of socialization especially if they are just completely wrong.  We can be that change and for that I raise a stronger woman and we stand strong in our decision not to be sucked into society's expectations.  Genuine people are out there but not in the usual mainstream masses, you just have to look in the right places.  In the meantime we focus on respect to ourselves and others but not acceptance from others.  You need to accept yourelf as a person first and foremost.  Nobody defines you - you define yourself  - a lesson well learned going through what may seem negative experiences. Other people putting others down or ostracizing are working from ego and competition.  It is not coming from a happy inner place.  They have inner demons that they need to work on and that is why they act the way they do and ostracize others.  The cycle continues but it stops and doesn't work with me.  I will not continue that cycle and will be my best version of me I possibly can.  You are not here to make others approve of you.  You are here to make yourself happy that should be your ultimate goal in life.  Your happiness is success!

Natasha F.

Social Media and Judgement

I was contemplating today whether to deactivate my Facebook account.  I have come across some negative stuff, as we all do.  It isn't the people complaining that triggered me.  It is the people complaining about people complaining that did.  I came to the conclusion though that you can't take anything personally.  This is their stuff to deal with.  If people are on here complaining about mundane things and that gets to you then you can simply tune them out and focus inward instead of outward.  I appreciate the people complaining and now I also appreciate the people complaining about the people complaining.  See you are still complaining just like them. 

You give something focus you will invite it in.  So even though you don't want it in your life - you attract it into your life and become it, all because you focused on it.  I appreciate all people - complaining or not, it gives us a sense of who they are and an ability to read what kind of person they are. I have blocked some people's feeds if I have found them to be too negative or simply full of things of the flesh.   You have the ability to be proactive and block out what you don't like.  Then of course there are complaints about people posting only positive and happy pictures or a fake reality. People posting only happy pictures and feeds might want to just focus on the positive and remember the happy moments. What everyone shares is their personal agenda and not for you to judge.  The ones with the fake reality well they have their own issues to deal with. Your judgement of them is certainly no help.  Instead of judging you can simply just observe or inspire people by diving deep and having an understanding.  

People are all on different levels and paths some dive deep, some internalize and come off as surface deep.  We are all here and we are all one remember that.  We have all had these emotions at one point or another.  Wanting to share our lives, wanting not to for the fear of - being judged.  We are all here in this earth plane together and we can all have the ability to judge less and think deeply about what people are going through.


- Natasha F.

- Protect your energy

Yes it is important to check on our friends and help them out if they need it.  However it is even more important to protect ourselves from getting sucked into a never ending situation.  Some people can be in their situation so deep and can only see the negative no matter what kind of help is presented to them.  What you need to know is that this is their path and not yours.  They need to experience it themselves, their own dark road ahead.  After darkness there is light if they learn their lessons.  If not of course the lessons will keep repeating themselves until they do. If you find yourself very approachable, the type of person that people open their hearts to remember that you are a Lightworker.  You are working with light so people working on a low vibration are naturally attracted to you.  Please proceed with caution when you notice this happening.  You need to protect your energy and not let it dim your light.  This goes for your family members and children as well.  I have had some difficulties dealing with this as a mother because I want the best for my child but I have to remember it is her path and not mine.  I am merely a guiding aide.  To let go of that you have to let go of your ego mentality.  It is very freeing once you can master it but with focused intention anything is possible.

As a Lightworker you can help by merely guiding them or asking them to look within themselves.  Never force unwanted information onto them remember this is their path and they need to go through this themselves in order to grow from it.   You know you have been sucked in if you feel their situation consuming you and you feel too tired to focus on your own growth and being in the present moment.  Never gossip about them this attracts the negative.  Wish them good intentions and if you find that you cannot do this simply detach and think on it.  We need to come from our heart space always.  In the end all of this doesn't matter, only love does. 

Experiencing an energy shift can really make you feel separated from everyone else.  What is changing is your perception of reality.   It can be lonely for some.   I was always a loner so this does not bother me - I always knew I had the universe within me but kept pushing it aside.  You will feel like detaching from your old ways and friends that no longer vibe with you. These are things that no longer serve you. This is normal and necessary to bring in abundance and align with your soul purpose.  You might feel more irritable and hypersensitive to noise more than normal - this is part of your energy shift - do what is necessary to ground you such as your favorite hobby.  Hiking, yoga, art, gardening etc....

Allergic to sage smoke....no problem

If you would like to cleanse your home or space with sage but can't because you or your family members might have allergies...fear no more.  You may use sage oil instead.  Just mix a few drops in a bottle mister full of water and voila your done.  Set your intention for each room and spray the corners instead of using the smoke.  Spray around your doorways and windows.  I did this today and it worked beautifully.  No sage smoke that smelled like pot.  So I am a happy camper!  Happy cleansing!!

You can purchase sage oil online for a few bucks.   I actually purchased mine on E-bay and got a good deal. 

Quiet and deep

The quietest people are sometimes the most deep feeling individuals you will ever come across.  💙